Strong emotions can derail even the most stable leader, given the right timing and circumstances. Like me, I’m sure you’ve done something you regret when you reacted out of anger–maybe you’ve fired off a terse email, raised your voice or...
If you hear yourself saying things like, “they don’t care,” “he isn’t engaged” or “she thinks she’s above it all,” then you’re operating off of emotions and not observation. In other words, you’re relying on your emotional brain rather than your executive brain. As a...
This is the third tip in my Connect More in 2022 series. My tip for increasing connection is to Cultivate curiosity. It’s more difficult to cultivate curiosity if you’re a seasoned leader, or equally if you feel the need to prove yourself. I’ve coached high-level...
Often a client comes to me with the belief that they have an anger problem. I tell them they most likely have an awareness problem. Anger is just energy that wants to go somewhere. Anger can be channeled for good, or it can lead us to take action too soon or lash out...
We all do it. We tell someone something they want to hear in order to make them happy. Here are some examples: Saying, “I’ll get back to you” and then not scheduling the appointment Agreeing when you disagree Being “too nice” to argue Appeasing is a form of people...
One of my rules for both leaders and employees is “no blindsiding.” This requires honest communication. Without honest communication it’s easy to lose trust. When leaders make surprising decisions that involve employees, employees feel blindsided...