Don’t believe every thought
The thoughts you think can cause you clarity or anxiety. The key to clarity is to learn how to manage your thoughts instead of being led by them. Much of our anxiety is due to our unmanaged thoughts about the situation, and not so much the situation itself. Whether...
The Antidote for Quiet Quitting
Last year there emerged a new buzzword: quiet quitting. In reality the behavior that we now refer to as "quiet quitting" has been around as long as there's been labor and management. The behavior used to be called “presenteeism” in the nineties, followed by “lack of...
Don’t Fall for this Trap
Have you ever had that sinking feeling after someone comes to you to secretly tell you what someone else said about you? You feel trapped because you have "insider information" but you don't feel the freedom to approach the person who is saying bad things about you...
Accountability versus Micromanagement
I often get asked this question, "How do I hold my team accountable without being a micromanager?" Many leaders worry about being a micromanager, but there’s a wide gap between micromanaging and having a light hands-on approach. Don't let your fear of being called a...
Do your boundaries stick?
A question I'm asked a lot is, "Why aren't my boundaries sticking?" There are three key reasons boundaries don't stick: First, It wasn't a boundary in the first place. A request or wish is not a boundary. A boundary is not a boundary unless you have a measure of...
Hills and Valleys
This year for me has been a mixture of the best and the worst. It's the first time I've been able to catch my breath in a long time. It's a reminder to me of how life can change on a dime, and how we must travel through the hills and valleys. In 2022 my book was...
Emotional Integrity
Do you lose your cool only to have regrets later? Do you often describe yourself by saying “I have an anger problem?” Or do you work with someone who seems edgy, sharp, and simply can’t master their energy? When emotions take over it’s easy to misunderstand and be...
Best Practices to Resolve Conflict
The best way to resolve conflict and stop drama so that you can get back to getting things done! With the release of my latest book, From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading, came some insight packed interviews. Here are a few of these...
Power Structures and The Three Types of Resistance
It doesn’t take a white paper to understand that high conflict behaviors contribute to a lot of team drama and dysfunction, including poor decision-making. Conflict is even more complex when working with powerful people in high positions: Think boards, city councils,...
Expand Your Conflict Capacity
As a leader you must build your conflict capacity, stop avoiding the difficult conversations and start leading your employees. Listen to my interview on the Legendary Leaders Podcast with Cathleen Merkel for insights on how to become a better conflict manager. Here...