Try These Practices To Increase Your Self-Regulation
Strong emotions can derail even the most stable leader, given the right timing and circumstances. When we feel we’re at the mercy of our rage, anger or resentment, we react swiftly, only to have regrets later. We stay on the hamster wheel of anger, reaction and...
Making Distinctions Reduces Conflict
Part of leadership is managing conflict, but you can’t manage what you don’t understand, and what you don’t understand leads to ineffective decision-making. Building the critical skill of making distinctions helps leaders make better decisions and manage conflicts....
Emotional Integrity
Strong emotions can derail even the most stable leader, given the right timing and circumstances. Like me, I'm sure you've done something you regret when you reacted out of anger--maybe you've fired off a terse email, raised your voice or accused someone of ill...
Should You Trust Your Feelings?
If you hear yourself saying things like, “they don’t care,” “he isn’t engaged” or “she thinks she’s above it all,” then you’re operating off of emotions and not observation. In other words, you’re relying on your emotional brain rather than your executive brain. As a...
Process Versus Result
It’s common for leaders to be disappointed with investments in workshops, leadership development and other initiatives that didn’t solve the problem they were intended to solve. I believe this is because the leader got caught up in process before being able to...
Why New Leaders Struggle
If you promote a top performer but they struggle with leading it could be an issue of identity. If they are a leader in title only but they still identify with former peers, they won’t be able to create accountability or initiate difficult conversations about...
Stop Getting Distracted
One reason so many of us hate meetings is because there's no structure and no real purpose. Even if there is structure, order, and purpose, if the facilitator gets distracted the meeting can go down winding roads. Let's face it some business meetings drain your...
How to Dramatically Improve All Relationships
My focus today is on a practice you can use to improve any relationship, personally or professionally. The practice is to substitute supervision for Super Vision. We all crave being truly seen, yet we fail to see others. Instead of seeing another person we see their...
Become a Facilitator
This is the fourth tip in my Connect More in 2022 series. This one is simple and often forgotten: Become a facilitator. When you facilitate you see the bigger picture and you take initiative, you direct the conversation, and you initiate communication instead of...
Cultivate Curiosity
This is the third tip in my Connect More in 2022 series. My tip for increasing connection is to Cultivate curiosity. It’s more difficult to cultivate curiosity if you’re a seasoned leader, or equally if you feel the need to prove yourself. I’ve coached high-level...