Last week we talked about hidden intentions, the first one being the intention to punish. You know, documenting so you can terminate someone.
Hidden Intention #2 The Intention to Prove a Point
If you find yourself preparing an argument, your focus is in the wrong direction. While your employee might have a contrary point of view, there’s no need to play verbal ping-pong. You’re the boss, but don’t forget that you’re on the same team. You don’t have to win the match point to prove you are right. Simply get clear about your desired outcome and you won’t be distracted to play a game where there’s a winner and a loser.
When you intend to punish, or when you intend to prove a point, you’re no longer on the same team. Do a little inner work, and clear the energy before you have that next conversation.
To your success,
Marlene Chism
