What’s your motive for feedback?

As a leader part of your job is to give feedback, or feed-forward as some would say.

Here are some points to ponder about giving advice and feedback, and this applies both at work and at home.

Make sure of your motive before offering feedback or advice.

No one wants to be blindsided.

Advice can come off as condescending if unsolicited.

Even the words, “May I offer some feedback?” can cause unnecessary drama.

Often, a better approach is to get curious and then offer your perception about an observed behavior.

Example: I’m curious…did that make you feel uncomfortable? I noticed that when I said that you folded your arms.

Getting curious and sharing a perception is a more relationship oriented than telling someone how they show up, or giving an opinion about how they ought to be.

Marlene Chism