We can have an intention without being aware of it. We’re on a roll uncovering the five hidden intentions. As a recap, the first one is the intention to punish, and the second one is the intention to prove a point. But what about the intention to show off? Let’s look at intention #3 The intention to showcase your brilliance.
The Intention to Showcase Your Brilliance
If you find yourself feeling good about knowing more, you might be tempted to showcase your own talents rather than coach the employee. Make sure you aren’t using your conversation as a stage for bragging rights. Don’t talk about your seniority, your education or your experience. You don’t have anything to prove. Instead, think about ways to use your education, experience and seniority to help the employee shine.
Everyone likes to be admired, but no one likes a show off. If you already know you’re brilliant you don’t need to always take center stage. If any of your managers are busy showcasing their brilliance, it could be an issue of leadership identity.
I talk about that in From Conflict to Courage.
Warm Regards,
Marlene Chism
