Last week tip #1 for taming the mismanaged mind was to notice your story. As Dr. Phil would say, “you can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge.” Every single one of us has a story going on in the background. The problem isn’t that you have a story, it’s that you believe all of it! So let’s challenge the narrative!
Challenge the narrative
Ask a coworker, colleague or friend to challenge your narrative. Many moons ago I had an assistant challenge me. She heard me beating myself up for a mistake, and she said, “Stop being so hard on yourself! You’re learning!”
Our upbringing often influences us in ways we don’t realize. My assistant told me that her father always encouraged her and when she failed, he would always ask, “What did you learn?” This was a total contrast to the criticism I experienced growing up.
The point here is to recognize that your team members or colleagues may have had to overcome a lot of family dynamics and criticism which lives on unconsciously. You can rewire yourself and help others to rewire when they understand that so much of our behaviors are programmed before we were fully developed.
To your success,
Marlene Chism
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