Many people think conflict is a problem to be avoided. But what if you could flip the switch to see conflict as a benefit? Sound a little far fetched? Stay with me! Over the next few weeks, I’ll share bite-sized tips to help you flip that switch.
Here’s the first one.
Benefit #1 Conflict can Transform Anger
Unresolved conflict triggers anger, and anger inhibits the ability to think from the pre-frontal cortex, the executive brain. When anger catches you off guard, it’s easy to become overwhelmed, lash out or react destructively. Anger and conflict are so intertwined that avoiding red flags becomes a coping mechanism. Eventually red flags become the elephant in the room that inhibits productivity, effectiveness and personal happiness.
What to do: When you first experience anger, recognize it as energy that wants to go somewhere. Accept the emotions and feeling as they process through your body. Don’t hide from it, but don’t act on your impulse. Calm yourself and create a plan before taking any action that could result mismanagement or regret.
Questions to ask: What boundary has been crossed? What expectation has not been met? What anger response behavior do I want to change?
Stay tuned and next week I’ll offer another way to benefit from conflict.