Taming The Mismanaged Mind: Tip #4

We’ve already talked about three important strategies to take control of your mind. The first one is to become aware of your story, second, challenge your narrative and third, stop feeding the beast. Which tip has been the most impactful for you as a leader or as one who coaches your leaders?

Here’s the last one in the series: Tip #4

Practice responsible language

The unmanaged mind makes you believe you’re a victim of circumstances instead of a creator of your reality.

It only takes a few conversations to easily determine the mentality of a victim or a creator. When we speak responsibly, we take ownership of our experiences, including our interpretations, emotions, and relationships, and we can easily identify our choices in any given situation.

In contrast, the disempowered view life through the lens of having no choice—being a victim of circumstances, needing others to change but not recognizing the opportunity for self-change. You can get a good dose of irresponsible language by reading through Facebook posts during an election year.

How do you identify irresponsible language?

  • Complaining
  • Excuses
  • Blame
  • Resentment
  • Disrespect
  • Arguing
  • Lack of curiosity / know it all

 

Conclusion

If your story is the source of your suffering, your story can also be the source of your salvation. If suffering is the effect of wrong thought in some direction, then “right thought” can reduce or eliminate suffering.

I’m known for saying “conflict is not the problem, mismanagement is.” So, the mind is not the problem, the mismanaged mind is.

As leaders we manage processes, priorities, and results. What if the next frontier is to tame the mismanaged mind?

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To your success,
Marlene Chism

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